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Re-define The Word Perfect =)

This afternoon, I ate my fried chicken while watching The Oprah Winfrey show on Metro TV.

Love the slogan: LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE =)

Surprisingly, the topic they were discussed about is exactly the same like I thought in last few days.
Yes, it`s about cheating.

Oprah invited three women who had been cheated by their husbands. Their stories was very unique. It has different complexities, different challenges, and also different ways to be solved.

Being in a relationship (especially) marriage is NOT easy. I mean it !

Cheating. Affair. Cruelness. I thought that`s the common terms in marriage. The question is, why? How could this happen into a woman`s life, when she had already sacrificed her whole life to her family? For God sake, it doesn`t fair at all !

I have to admit that those three women are so fascinating. They kept their chin up, and strong enough to mend the pieces of their broken heart. They didn`t dwell in grieve. They kept aside their perturbing thought about those calamities. They chose to be an independent women and surmount the obstacle(s). They reframed their life into a positive one, left those adversities behind. Struggled.

One simple quote which keep running in my head,
"It will never be just one"
Or, in my own word, once you cheat on someone, the bigger possibility that you`ll do the exactly same thing again.
Citing from a very well-known bread`s slogan, One is Never Enough :)

I remember one classic quote, Lying is like a snowball. Once you lie, you have to create another lie in order to cover your first lie, and so on. What a mess !

Most people say the main key of successfull marriage is commitment. Now I wondering, what is commitment? Is it when you promise to love your partner forever? Is it about honesty? Is it about share, or what? Sometimes, the most simple question seems to be the most complicated one to explain. I thought so.

At the end of the show, Oprah said:
The hardest part is not because you have to letting go of what you really have. It`s because of you have to leting go your dream. Your fantasy.

Suddenly, I remember when I was in a long-distance relationship, which last only for about 3,5 months and ended in an unpredictable moment and unpredictable ways. I was shattered. I was messed. I was broken into the smallest pieces I`ve ever known in a romantic story. Call me pleonastic. I put my trust on him. I gave over all my dreams about perfect future, with him for sure. It took a long time for me to recover, to believe on somebody else, and open my heart again.

And yes, now I realize. The only one thing which made me hard to stand still is not when I have to let him go. Yes, it`s when I have to let my fantasy go. My dream. My perfect future with him, the only one I loved :)
Make it more wretched. I thought there still another chances for me to rebuild our story, another leeways to get him back into my life.

You are free to call me pathetic. But at this time, I thank God for sending him into my colourful life. Because of those experiences. I moved on. I "deleted" the despondencies. For sure, it made me stronger. Don`t mean to  intricate, I successfully pass that phase.

I`m happy to say that I thank him for the lesson he gave to me. Now that I can put a big smile on my face when I tell everyone that I`ve ever loved him with all my heart. He left me without a reasonable reason. But now, I realize that I don`t need an explanation. Whatever the reason is, the only one thing I now is separated was the best way for both of us.
Yes, I mean it.

Women used to dream about perfectness, and so am I. Perfect guy, perfect house, perfect children, etc. But when you lost it all, then all you have to do is just "re-define" the word perfect.

Now, I succesfully create my own perfect life, with all the debilities and power. I never stop to believe, God has always been give me His best plan. When I ask Him to make me stronger, He give me problems to be solved. I never stop dreaming. I never stop praying. And I never stop convincing my self, that I deserve to get the best one. The perfect gift from Him :)

In short, thank you for all the people who raise my spirit up, and play pivotal role both in my transitition and recover phase.
I`m nothing without you, Matahari =)
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  1. agusalimJune 4, 2011 at 4:41 PM

    Hohohoh...
    Bagus ya. Pengen banget bisa nulis pake bahasa inggrisan gini. hihihi.. tapi sering gak pede. hahaha..

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  2. Fanny WidiyantiJune 4, 2011 at 6:40 PM

    Waduh, aku anggap pujian ya cint. Hehehe. Makasih :)
    Ah, semua bisa asal mau belajar kok. Jangan takut salah. Ini juga bahasa inggrisku masih berantakan, banyak yg perlu dikoreksi ;)
    Yuk sama-sama belajar :)

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